In his study of sexual fantasy, Who’s Been Sleeping in Your Head?, Brett Kahr found that 19 percent of people fantasize about being watched during sex and another 5 percent fantasize about taking it off in public. In for the risk? Put on a show. Get it on near the windows in your home or hotel room. I am sure it will make both of you sexually aroused.
Does watching the show from the sidelines turn you on? Whether you’re spying on the neighbors or the couple getting it on at the beach, this fantasy is a common one. One easy way to make it happen? Go to nude beach or a sex show with your partner.
3. The stranger fantasy
There’s something sexy and mysterious about anonymity. For as long as you’ve known your partner, pretend you don’t. Different clothes, new hairstyles, different personalities, different names. Start by meeting at the bar and then take your new friend home. Keep in character the entire time.
4. Make a sex video
A Stanford University study found that women reach peak arousal after just two minutes into an erotic flick. According to Men’s Health, it’s not just celebrities who want to make sex tapes — 40 percent of women want to make a homemade flick with their partners. So get on it while it’s hot. After you watch it make sure to hide it safely or quickly delete it.
5. Using sex toys
According to the LELO survey, 76 percent of women want to use their toys with their partner. And ladies, don’t be embarrassed to ask about unleashing the toys. The survey found that 89 percent of men would be happy to use them. And it’s not just for your benefit? Sixty-eight percent of couples both climax during intercourse with sex toys.